Karyn Zuidhof, MA (R. Psych)
September 29, 2017
I hate feeling overwhelmed.
You know the feeling, the one where you feel like you are barely keeping your head above water, and you are reacting to people and situations in a rash, and sometimes volatile manner. No matter how your partner, kids, or boss did or said something, you take it as an attack.
There are so many things on the to-do list it’s nearly impossible to decide where to start, so you find the couch and some mind-numbing TV to distract you for a bit. Or maybe there isn’t even time for that, and you just drop everything when you get home, crawl into bed, and promise to move the pile next week when you can breathe again.
It’s an awful feeling, and in short, it feels like a lack of control.
Control is beautiful.
Control feels good, and I don’t mean in the typical type-A personality way where one cannot bear to think of someone else completing a task we think we have the skill for. Rather, control in the sense of – I know what I would like to get done today, and I’ve got a loose plan on how to accomplish it. Control, as in prioritizing caring for myself, because I can visualize the weekly calendar and know when to make time for me. Control in asking for help, or delegating tasks.
There is a simple way to gain this control, and it’s not too hard. The secret? Make choices.
Choose when to take a break and when to tackle a task.
Choose to cook dinner, or choose to pick it up tonight.
Choose to prioritize caring for yourself, knowing the hugely beneficial impact it has.
Choose to pick one item off the to-do list, and get it done. Then if you want, choose another.
This feels so much better than those overwhelming, barely-holding- my-head above water feelings. I promise you it works. I know this because it has, and continues to work for me. We are all going to go through situations where we are at the mercy of someone else’s decision. This doesn’t mean we don’t have any control, because we still have so many choices to make in the situation.
Every time you make a choice, you are taking control of your life and saying goodbye to those overwhelmed feelings. When we make choices, we are in control.
If this sounds like a beautiful concept, and you would like a little help to get it stated, give us a call and
we’ll help get you on the right path.